The Reverend Molly McGreevy, 1936-2015

mollywebEarly this morning, All Saints Day, my Aunt Molly McGreevy died after a long decline.  Molly was my father’s sister, six years his junior in age.  In many ways they were alike, especially in their ability to see and appreciate the humor and ridiculousness of life.  In many other ways, they were wholly unalike–Molly was a die-hard liberal politically while my father was an equally die-hard conservative, as just one example.

Above all else, however, Molly loved and was loved by many, many people.  She became an Episcopal priest at a time when the whole idea of women as priests was controversial and too often met with hostility within the Church.  After being ordained, she worked tirelessly with AIDS patients at a time when victims of the disease were treated as pariahs by a public that reacted with fear and loathing towards a disease they didn’t understand.  Molly was a fearless person, not just in what she did, but in how she thought and how she related to everyone around her.

My thoughts and prayers are with her daughters, Pam, Jessica and Barbara, and with her grandchildren Natalie and Alex.  Along with them, with the rest of the extended family and with her many friends, I will miss her dearly.

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A trip to Citi Field

WDP-ASP-in-seatsThis past Saturday afternoon, Andrew and I attended a New York Mets baseball game at Citi Field.  It was a cold and wet day (the game had been postponed from Friday night due to rain and wind), but we braved the elements anyway to get our fix of live baseball.

The last time I saw a Mets game was at the old Shea Stadium, so this was my first visit to the “new” ballpark.  Wow!  I’m really impressed; the design is fantastic.  For all that it holds some 45,000 plus people, it has an intimate and accessible feel to it.  The main field-level concourse goes completely around the park, all the while with views of the playing field, and contains a wide array of food and drink vendors along with the usual souvenir shops.  MrMetBehind the outfield is the main food court and attractions plaza, including a play-area for kids.  Nearby the kids zone, Mr. Met posed for pictures with fans (see at right).

The game itself was a bit of a bust.  The Mets were playing the Washington Nationals, and since we had already clinched the National League Eastern Division title many of our star players were sitting the game out.  Noah Syndergaard was on the mound and pitched a good game, but the Mets’ bats were largely silent and didn’t provide him with any run support.

It could have been worse:  in the later game of the day/night double-header, the Mets were on the losing side of a no-hitter.  By then, Andrew and I were home and watching on TV instead of freezing our butts off in the stands.

View-from-seatsOur seats were actually pretty good (view from our seats at left).  We were on the “Excelsior” level, which is the first open-air tier above the field level seats and is just above the ring of luxury boxes.  We were in a section known as “Caesar Gold,” which meant we had access to the Caesars Club bar and lounge located behind us inside.  Between us and the club were the press boxes, so the club itself did not have views of the field but rather looked out on the plaza in front of the rotunda entrance.  Although you couldn’t walk all the way around the field as on the field-level concourse, there was also a concourse on our level that was similarly designed so that you always got a view of the field while walking around on it.

Access to the club was key to enjoying the game.  It gave us a place to go warm up, grab a bite to eat and some hot coffee or hot chocolate, with TV monitors scattered around comfortable chairs so we didn’t miss out on too much of the game.  SNY-boothAnd (bonus!) we got to pass by the SNY broadcast booth on our way to and from our seats–if you look closely at the nearby picture, you’ll see broadcaster and ’86 Mets 1st baseman Keith Hernandez in the booth doing his thing.  The entrances to the club are on either side of the broadcast booths, where the maroon uniformed ushers are standing.

While it wasn’t the most pleasant day for a baseball game, it was an excellent scouting trip for a more substantial visit next season.  Perhaps Andrew and I will get our mom and a couple friends and go see a game on a lovely summer day…!

 

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Cooking again

After a year on the LeanChefs plan, I’ve decided it is time for me to take the training wheels off my diet and start managing my own food again.  So, beginning last week, I ended the plan.  LeanChefs did a fantastic job for me:  in a year I lost 56 pounds.  Beyond just the simple fact of losing the weight, I’ve also gained valuable reference points on portions and types of food I really need to be eating to continue losing and to remain healthy.  I got some great ideas for meals that I might not have thought of otherwise–one of my favorite breakfasts now is ricotta cheese mixed with granola.

However, I’ve been away from preparing my own food for a year, so my cooking skills have become pretty rusty.  I’m also now a bit spoiled by the variety of meals LeanChefs provided, so returning to the limited range of meals I knew how to do seemed, well, limiting.  So, I’ve decided to try Blue Apron.

Taiwanese 3 Cups ChickenSome of you may have heard of them, or companies like them.  What they do is send a weekly box of ingredients, with detailed instructions, for three 2-person meals.  Everything you need is included, with the exception of a few basics like cooking oil, salt and pepper.  The recipes are all easy to follow and do not require more than basic kitchen equipment (they will even sell you those if you don’t already have them–at modestly marked-up prices, of course!).  Monday night, for example, Andrew and I had a very delicious Taiwanese Three Cups Chicken (click the link for the recipe on Blue Apron’s web site), which you see pictured nearby.

The portions on the Blue Apron meals are also appropriate for me.  In the past I might have felt they were a bit on the chintzy side, but now I know the portions are correct.  My challenge, then, is to plan and manage portion sizes on the other meals of the week, which inevitably will include at least one order-in or eating-out meal.  My usual repertoire of meals were grossly over-portioned, so I have to figure out ways of either cooking less or creatively using left-overs for next-day lunches and so forth.

And, of course, there is the elephant in the room: exercise, or more precisely my lack of it.  That’s the next step for me, and ultimately the only real path to losing the 2nd half of my 100 lbs goal.  Stay tuned.

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Life, the Universe and Everything

Wow.  I’ve really neglected this.  Sorry!  Time for me to update you on the past 10 months…

First, the diet plan.  The very good news here is that I’ve gone from a starting point of roughly 300lbs down to 245lbs, a loss of 55 in nearly a year.  The progress is slower than I would ideally like, but the key word here is “progress,” which is a good thing.  I seem to be in a pattern of holding steady for a couple weeks, then dropping a bit, then plateauing again, and so forth.  I’ve learned not to scale-watch and just let my body do its thing on its own schedule.  Meanwhile, I have a lot more energy just moving around the daily routine, and I’m spending money I’d rather keep on new clothes (down 4 inches in the waist, for example).  People tell me they really notice the difference.

As for other doings…

JHPcakeIn February, Andrew and I accompanied our mother down to Florida to visit with her sister (my Aunt Jan), who had invited us all there to celebrate my mom’s 80th (!!!) birthday.  We had a wonderful time visiting with Jan, who lives at a “continuing care” senior living community in the Pompano Beach area.  Jan’s son Marc (with his wife and two sons) live a few minutes away in Sea Ranch Lakes, just on the seaward side of the Intercoastal Waterway.  A number of other relatives on my mom’s side of the family showed up (Florida is popular in February, it seems!), and we had a series of birthday parties, each with yet another cake (example pictured nearby).

As has become the tradition, Memorial Day weekend saw Andrew and I up in Willsboro to volunteer at Camp Poko’s Patch Sprint fundraiser benefiting the Adirondack Scholarship Foundation.  John Rayburn aka Dr. Johnny ran the race with me and Andrew acting as support crew–he set a new personal record by quite a wide margin.

GardCot6-15Andrew and I were again up in Willsboro at the end of June for a Friday-Monday super-long weekend.  Our old family friend Marian Bradley was at Flat Rock Camp that week with a pile of family and friends–it was great to catch up with them.  Because the camp was full to the bursting point, Cousin Peter was gracious enough to let us stay at the Garden Cottage, a small lakeside summer house about a five minute walk from Flat Rock itself.  It’s a lovely spot, with two bedrooms and a screened-in porch overlooking the lake (see nearby photo).

Regrettably, schedules and bedroom availability meant that we didn’t get as much time in Willsboro as we’d have liked, but even a short amount of time is a blessing.  I consider myself fortunate to have relatives and friends that make room for me up there.

So that essentially concludes the whirl-wind tour of What You Missed in my life since the previous posting.  I promise I’ll be a bit more diligent.  Really.  Honest!

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October 2014 NWTA

NWTA October 2014Over the weekend of October 23-26, I participated in my sixth New Warrior Training Adventure staffing for the Mankind Project.  Above you see the group photo of the staff and newly initiated brothers taken at the end of the training.

This was my fourth training as a declared elder in the community.  I’ve spoken about the role of elders in MKP before; for me, it is an incredible gift and a blessing to be able to fill that role on these NWTA weekends.  I come away from the weekend energized and inspired by the work these men do to make the world a better place.

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Leaner and Meaner

Most of you know that I’m seriously overweight.  At my worst, I tipped the scales at 300 lbs, easily 100 lbs more than I should be for my height; since then, I’ve hovered around 295.

In the wake of my pulmonary embolism episode (see here), my doctor basically read me the riot act—lose the weight or die before your time.  Those kinds of words tend to get one’s attention.  In my case, being somebody who goes quite unconscious around food, it took a while for that to sink in, and I’ve had only limited success in the past with weight loss efforts.

So I decided to try something new.  I signed up with an outfit called Lean Chefs, a service that delivers a daily cooler bag of prepared meals right to your door overnight.  Unlike programs that send frozen TV-dinner style meals, Lean Chefs’ meals are locally prepared and are either eaten cold (salads and the like) or heated up in a microwave.  I can take the cooler bag with me if my schedule has me out of the house at lunch or dinner time, and at the end of the day I simply leave the empty bag outside my door for pickup.

The downside:  they’re expensive.  Signing up for a full month (which gives you the least expensive daily rate) costs a little over $1,000.  This sounds worse then it really is, because normally I spend between $600 and $700 a month on groceries, dining out and other food-related expenses, so the true budgetary cost is more like $300-$400.  That still stings, but what price do I put on good health?

So far, the program is working.  I’m closing in on the end of the first month, and I’ve gone from about 295 lbs to 284 lbs.  My ultimate goal is to get down to 200 lbs—still technically overweight for my height, but much more attainable and sustainable given my lifestyle.

Wish me luck!

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Flat Rock Vacation

Bill at Flat Rock

Bill at Flat Rock

My brother Andrew and I are upstate on Lake Champlain again, enjoying a little time off at Flat Rock Camp by kind invitation of Marian Bradley, one of our honorary aunts (childhood friend of my Aunt Molly), who is renting the camp for this week.  Molly, unfortunately, was not able to come up this trip, although we did get a chance to visit her, our cousin Pam and Pam’s two kids in Pittsford before we headed up here this past Friday.

The camp is beautiful, as always.  The weather was absolutely perfect until yesterday, when it turned cloudy and rainy.  Today things are starting to clear up, and I hope to have a few more days of lovely weather before we most reluctantly head back south to the city.

Bradley-reading-papers

Bradley reading papers

One of the great things about the camp is the huge number of guests that can be housed here.  Two of Marian’s children, along with a substantial collection of grandkids and dogs, stayed for the first part of the week, and then some of her husband Bradley’s family came to keep things hopping though the remainder of the week.

I hadn’t seen Mike and Kate, Marian’s children, since we were all children ourselves, so it was a lot of fun to catch up with them and meet their kids (Kate’s ages 16, 15 & 12, Mike’s age 8).  We had a beach fire down by the dock with s’mores;  Andrew told a ghost story, complete with off-stage scream at the appropriate narrative moment provided by your humble correspondent.  The effect of the scream, however, was a bit spoiled by the reaction of the dogs who naturally went berserk at the noise.  Luckily, they decided on charging up to me in the woods that I was a friend.flowers-and-lake

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A Close Call

I had a bit of a scare this past Saturday.  While walking down the street towards my local subway station, I collapsed to the sidewalk, actually passing out for several seconds.  Thankfully, my brother Andrew was with me, and he promptly called 911.  I was taken to the hospital and after a series of tests was found to have a massive pulmonary embolism—essentially, a blood clot lodged in the pulmonary artery that leads from the heart to the lungs (see diagram).

Diagram of pulmonary circulation. Oxygen-rich ...

Diagram of pulmonary circulation. Oxygen-rich blood is shown in red; oxygen-depleted blood in blue. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The clot was located in the “saddle” of the artery, where it branches off to each side, with bits of it extending a ways into the various further branchings in each lung.  Obviously, this was a very serious condition, one that very easily could have been fatal if enough blood flow had been blocked.

I was transferred from the ER to the ICU in the early morning hours of Sunday while being given a heavy dose of blood thinner.  While the blood thinner doesn’t directly cure the embolism, it halts further clotting and helps the body naturally dissolve the clots.  After a great deal of further testing—I nicknamed the nurses “Vampirellas” from all the blood they kept sucking out of me—I was moved out of the ICU into a regular hospital room shortly after midnight Tuesday morning.

Normally, I’d have been kept in the hospital for several more days while they gradually shifted the blood thinner medication from the intravenously administered Heparin to either Coumadin or its generic sibling Warfarin.  However, a newer drug called Xarelto was made available to me that doesn’t require as much transition time or follow-on monitoring, so I was allowed to go home Tuesday afternoon.

As for the root cause of the clot, the testing did find clots in my leg (deep vein thrombosis aka DVT, since everything has to have a catchy acronym), and most likely one or more broke loose from there and traveled up through my heart to lodge in the pulmonary artery.  Long term, I don’t know yet what will be done to treat the condition.  Certainly I will remain on the blood thinners for at least six months or so, and then further testing to determine if clotting is still an issue for me.  Other tests may be done to see if there’s a blood disorder or some other treatable condition that’s causing the clots.  And, it may well be that no definitive cause will be found, which means I’ll need to continue to be careful about all the things that can lead to thrombosis.

I’m very thankful to have a good outcome, considering the alternatives.  More then that, I’m very grateful for the many friends and family members who reached out to me and prayed for me.  I felt your support, and it made all the difference to me.

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Winter in Forest Hills

FH-2-4-14Even New York City looks beautiful just after a snowfall.  I took this picture on my way to the subway station this morning.  Of course, what you don’t see are the stuck cars and cursing drivers on the highway behind me…!

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New Internet Provider

I’ve been online, in one form or another, since the mid-80’s, beginning with services like CompuServe, Prodigy and others.  Back then, all of these were closed networks that were not linked to the internet—access was through dedicated dial-up connections for each system.  Even the internet itself was not what we know today—HTTP and the resultant world wide web didn’t exist prior to 1991—and was largely the domain of academics, defense contractors and government agencies (harking back to the DARPAnet days)

In the early 90’s, a small number of pioneering companies became the first Internet Service Providers (ISP) for the general public.  One of these, founded in 1993, was The Pipeline, which offered a proprietary pre-web navigation system that was essentially menu-driven but incorporated some graphical interface features.  I signed up around late ’94 or early ’95—this is the source of my email address that ends with pipeline.com.

As the web gained in popularity, ISPs also saw rapid industry consolidation.  In short order, The Pipeline was gobbled up by PSInet, which in turn was taken over by MindSpring, which in turn merged with Earthlink.  Meanwhile, my home access graduated through faster forms of dial-up to a Digital Subscriber Line (DSL) connection with a home wireless network, still with Earthlink (neé The Pipeline).

I think where things started to go downhill was after MindSpring merged with Earthlink.  The resulting company lost MindSpring’s dedication to quality service and support; in recent years, both tech support and customer service are too obviously outsourced overseas, with reps who have thick, almost unintelligible accents and who follow rote scripts with no actual understanding of the issues.  At least once a month and frequently more often, I would lose service for no apparent reason; when contacted, tech support would deny any network outages—service would then mysteriously resume a few hours later.

So, finally, I decided it was time to abandon Earthlink.  I researched the various providers offering service in my area and the one that stood out as the most highly thought of was Verizon’s FiOS.  Unfortunately, FiOS is not available in my building, although I’m told it may be coming next year sometime.  I didn’t want to stay with a DSL system, so my choice then boiled down to either RCN or Time Warner cable; since Andrew and I wanted to stay with Time Warner TV (no love for TWC, but NY1’s “In the Papers” feature just can’t be lived without), I ended up getting a TV/Internet package with them.

So far, I’m favorably impressed.  Granted, it’s only been two days, but the increased speed is quite noticeable when performing tasks like downloading email attachments and the like.  Set-up was relatively easy—the modem and connection hardware were shipped to me, and I did a self-install with my pre-existing wifi router (saving me additional fees for an installation and a router).  I even got to keep my old pipeline email address for a $6/month fee.

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